I had a long conversation with my dad tonight. I wrote down what I could, in a hastily found marker from my kid, on the back of bills I owe.
Life expectancy is only 5% to 5 years. Surgery is a possibility if pre-tests come back ok. When they open him up, they will take lymph nodes in his chest to test right then. If cancerous, they stop. They will check his rib cage. If cancerous, they stop.
If all checks, they remove part or all of one lung, the plueral, the epcaridiam ( lining of the heart) the diaphragm. Forgive my spelling. Then laser the inside of the ribs in hopes of getting the rest of the caner.. Chemo would then start.
The DR doesn’t want to do the surgery at the hospital that medical covers due to their inexperience in sch a major surgery. So finances come in to it and dad doesn’t want to leave mom without money. He would forego treatment for her.
Hopefully we’ll have pre-testing in a week and surgery soon after. I asked if he mentioned our clamming trip. In true dad fashion he said he forgot but he thinks clams could pull it out. Like putting a steak on a black eye. I said I have tones of clams. I will happily cover him in them
Surgery will hopefully be soon. We don’t have the luxury of tim
Dad doesn’t want revenge or retribution.He wants to make sure mom is cared for in his absence. HIS ABSENCE! That is hard to hear.
I asked how he’s feeling. Not physically, but emotionally. He said it’s depressing but not so much that he’s going to jump from a bridge. He said he’s sad for what could have been but has to play the hand he was dealt.
After we were off the phone I asked him his blood type, so I could donate to his surgery. In true dad fashion, he said “Red!
From there it said this:
Well what the crap! I’m A+. Are you sure we’re related? We have a blood drive at work soon. I typically don’t do it but I will this time. It might not go to you but it’s for you anyway.
Yea, related. Both too hard headed. Good to donate, never know who it might save. Might be someone you know but didn’t know was in need.
Definitely. And I’m not hard headed! You must be thinking of your other kid. lol
Thinking of both. Runs in the family.
Lol Definitely. Love you more than the moon and stars.
Love you to. Be strong.
I will be as strong as possible. You too! Fight. For everything you have, you fight. For you and for us. And we will gladly carry you when you get tired. I love you more than you will ever know. You have raised me to be a survivor, a fighter and a warrior.Now we do that for you.
Onward together!
Yes. Onwards and upwards. We are warriors. Time to kick some ass!
Yes. Oc